As much as I love my boys growing up and learning new things it always brings with it anguish, pain and heartache and requires alot of patience.
During our Queensland holiday earlier this year in February Fox had not long started to walk. He was still wobbly, he was going through changes. At the same time he started these horrible tantrums. The kind you're left wondering if there is medically something wrong, or some thing behaviorally wrong. He would headbutt the glass doors, the floors, the walls. He would throw himslef into things scream and cry and was pretty much uncontrollable. Luckily that phase only lasted a couple short (but at the time very long) months.
Fast forward to last week and the tantrums have started again. At the start of October we took away both his dummies and his night time bottle. We never intended to do both within one week but he went so well without the dummy we thought why not go for it all. It was alot easier than we hoped. Since then, as predicted he has started attempting using more words and communicating more with us. He has so much he wants to say but cant. So here we are at another developmental stage and he is losing his shit. Yep this kid is Psycho. If only temporarily (2 nights ago this tantrum lasted about 2 hours) we feared for his safety. If we put him in the cot he would keep headbutting the sides til we picked him up. Then if we picked him up he would pull hair, bite, scratch, punch and kick. We tried every bribe in the book, held him with as much love as we could muster and took turns restraining him. I wont lie, it was bloody hard, and hubby and I just didn't know what to do. It wasn't safe to let him cry it out, yet we were amazed with how much an almost 2 year old could hurt us.
We filmed him for a bit, so that later once we were all calm we could reflect and see if there was something we missed, or could pick up- but no such luck. I am hoping with all my might that this will pass as quickly as it started and that once he learns to talk better he will calm down.
With all this going on my eldest boy Memphis is going through changes to. Certain body parts have developed a bit further and he is so excited he's growing up. For those of you with little boys you'll know what I'm referring to lol. Finally his clothes are getting too small (he's still wearing some clothes that are 12-18 months in size, and hasn't grown much in height in ages. Size 2 (3 at the biggest) right now and he's almost 5. So we make a big deal when he does grow!
We received confirmation of his 4 year old preschool acceptance last week. I am looking forward to it. I miss having one on one time with Fox, and to be honest I miss my time at home alone to work on Baby For Life, and get the housework done in peace and in one go.
We've spoken about moving the boys into their own rooms. Fox is Mr destructo (yes it's the age and stage he's at) but Memphis is now ready to look after things, and keep things special to him. He gets so upset when Fox ruins his latest lego creation or rips up his little robot and alien drawings. I don't blame him. That kind of stuff can be soul destroying even for adults. But before this can happen we have to build my new office outside and were a little way off that yet.
So in the mean time, all we can do is muster all the patience we can, be there for both the boys and hope they understand, and work it out all. We have to guide them, and let them know its ok, even if at times we don't believe it ourselves
Bec
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